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ME, MY THINKING, AND SAVING OUR COUNTRY.

My thoughts come in a continuous stream or thread: one idea leads to three more. It all started with the notion that Trump had the support of 40% of our country, and I thought that if we could lower that to 25%, we could save our nation. How could we do that? Flyers, ads on southern stations, going down south to knock on their doors.

And then I said, "Rocco, what if you turned the stick around and looked at it from the other side?” What if I no longer saw them as my enemies but as fellow citizens who also loved our country? How could I establish a dialogue with them? That led me to ask: how could I start a conversation with our entire country?

My wife, Carol, and I are always worried about the world our grandchildren are growing up in. We lived in a time of family closeness and involvement: I was part of a family of nine, and she had a tight-knit circle of relatives who lived near each other. It was a world of personal, social, and intimate contact. Our music reflected love and care, and we enjoyed slow dancing. As far as I can tell, my grandchildren's generation is obsessed with their iPhones and texting and would rather use them than interact face-to-face. It’s a world of isolation and disconnect, with little personal contact.

What if this condition is contributing to our social splitting? If so, how could I change this from being the future of our society?

And then this morning, I had a brain explosion. Rocco, you have spent your life teaching people to get to know themselves. You should remember that you were part of a five-day silent retreat with one thousand participants led by Thich Nhat Hanh, and you have felt the effects of that experience your entire life.

You hear the people of Minneapolis saying that something happens to them when they are together on the street resisting ICE. We see that being part of a community makes a difference, as evidenced by segments of our society that engage with it and are committed to community life.

So, this was my explosion: what if it could be arranged for a nationally designated time, for our entire country to have a moment to spend with themselves, a time for reflection. What if, let's say, nationally across our country, there could be a 30-minute time period where citizens would stop what they are doing and go to any church, synagogue, temple, or any designated place where they could sit and spend time with themselves, no phones allowed. They would have to leave somewhere other than on them. There was nothing said, no sermons, maybe only a bell to start the sitting and a bell to end the sitting, and at the end of the sitting, the members would stand and shake the hands of their neighbors and say hello, brother, or sister.

And they would happen nationally in the north, the south, the east, and the west. We would all stop our businesses, spend time together as a community, and experience the effect of being in a group. Thich Nhat Hanh stressed the importance of a communal experience, which he called a Sangha.

What if our fellow citizens living in the southern state could feel the joy of being part of a national movement—the kind we experienced during the Second World War and when 9-11 happened in New York—when the country was united and indivisible? What if we honestly believed in our country's legend and took pride in ourselves? Not divided by north and south, or by Republican and Democrat, but as citizens who respect each other.

I believe this kind of time exists in Islamic countries where there are daily universal prayer times, five times a day, and active community prayer gatherings. I know my mother was a devout Catholic who attended Mass and communion every morning at 6 AM, then returned home to make breakfast for the family. Her prayer was an important part of her life. That kind of mindset is a thing of the past.

Another idea was that in Congress, both the House and the Senate, a seating chart was issued each week where there would be no aisle split. Instead, they would be assigned seats in a mixed arrangement, with a Democrat next to a Republican, encouraging them to interact.

And then I woke up and went downstairs to make coffee.

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