Discussion about this post

User's avatar
Lisa Chambers's avatar

I have a personal experience our family is working through that as a mother has challenged my values. We discuss it in therapy. There is a crime I feel for the first time in my life warrants the death penalty. While validated that the anger is justified, I know there is no consequence that would remedy the numerous violations that occurred. No court. No sentencing. No settlement.

It’s the struggle to accept the evil that men do. There is not an adequate why. The naïveté of believing that decency is rewarded with decency causes cognitive dissonance I can’t yet reconcile. Decent people suffer the effects of horrendous crimes.

My son asked me about Plato while studying. Whether the survivor is actually better off than the perpetrator. I didn’t tell him I don’t believe it, but we discussed the dialogue from many angles.

I think I may return to my core values at some point. We aren’t the same. And maybe somehow we’ll be ok.

Expand full comment
Alison Noel's avatar

Thank you for shredding this deeply toxic messaging. It must be extremely wearing to have to spend your precious time fighting this onslaught, where most of us just bury our heads. 💕

Expand full comment
11 more comments...

No posts